Chat, Communication and How to act.

It is not easy for many people to communicate effectively, especially with txting, chatting online, emailing, facebook, Twitter, google+ etc. Even when we are talking with people face to face we can often not realise how we come across.  

• Presentation: It is a good thing to always present yourself in a neat and tidy manner. Shower often, have clean cloths, a tidy environment to live and work in. These things show others what we are like and help us to feel good about ourselves. 
• Attitude: Our attitude can affect our communication. When we have a sense of pride in ourselves, not thinking we are better than others, we feel good, and people pick up on it. The same goes if we are not feeling so good and have a bad attitude towards life. people pick up on the negative signals we show. A good positive attitude, or a negative one, can affect how we communicate even online. 
• Informal communication: The modern forms of communication. This can be taken the wrong way easily. I have had many  txt communication errors  that have quickly turn into an argument over nothing. a quick phone call clears it up in a few minutes. Informal communication is not face to face with a person so you don´t see their body language, gestures and hear there voice tone all a major part of communication. How you say something makes a big difference. 
• I notice on facebook when people share things and comment on others posts, including me, they share and say things they would not generally do face to face with people. we need to remember to read what we have written first before publishing it, pressing the enter key. If you have many friends on facebook etc they can see it, do you want everyone to know what you have written. when you are commenting on somebodies post think carefully I find its easy to be negative even without meaning to be. Weather facebook, chat, txt, email,  this can also be true as well. 

Below is adapted from something I wrote in my personal journal.  

My new chat and communication rules. Changing behaviors to come across better. 

1. Less time: limit the amount of time spent on chat.
2. Come in and chat: Chat generally in the room.
3. Spell better: Make sure to type well, use automatic chat dictionary, Presentation is a good key.
4. Look: Look at what you are typing before hitting enter, does it make sense, etc
5. Don’t help too much: Make sure when helping its something easy, simple, that I really know. Don´t try something complicated cause sometimes its hard to communicate.
6. I don´t know everything: Don´t try to sound like you know everything.
7. Don´t tell people what to do: This sounds rude. just converse with them. Itś easy to sound too serious and can come across like a sgt major.
8. Be Happy: Be less serious and sound more happy
9. Don´t criticize: Try not to be negative and go overboard on everything
   

Don´t sound irritating. Treat people, especially  friends, as you want them to treat you and show more respect. 
Things will start to flow if you follow these steps. Everything in life will become better because it will show good fruits. 

As a christian before doing anything I try to remember these things
W.W.J.D What Would Jesus Do W.D.J.D What Did Jesus Do
D.O.G Depend On God 
FROG Forever Rely On God / Fully Rely On God 
P.U.S.H Pray Until Something Happens